Hi Rachel,
Just a quick question and in need of your "keep it real, tell it like it is advice." Can you explain to me why it is that some men think that they can get away with talking to another woman on the side, but continue telling you how much they love you, how they want to spend the rest of their life with you, introduce you to their parents, blah, blah … How do they think they can get away with it? I look on the phone bill, which he knows I have access to and all I see are calls to another woman … calls that are made when I am upstairs in another room. So, my question is: Do I bother confronting him about it and ask him why he says such wonderful things to me, while constantly calling another woman or do I just stay silent and tell him that I no longer want the relationship and pretty much drop him w/out reason? If I confront him, he may deny it or come up with some lie and he would also know that I was "snooping.” Rachel, one more thing, I don't know why I am asking all of these questions, when I for one am not even married to him. Is there something wrong with me or what? Not sure why I am wasting my time. Perhaps, I just need to drop him ... ugggh!
Why Bother
Why Bother,
You’ve got so much going on, that we are going to have to dissect your question and provide you with all the answers that you need to rectify this problematic situation immediately ...
Your statement: Rachel, can you explain to me why is it that some men think that they can get away with talking to another woman on the side, but continue telling you how much they love you, how they want to spend the rest of their life with you, introduce you to their parents, blah, blah … How do they think they can get away with it?
Uh ... well ... U are allowing your man to get away with it and so has every other woman who has asked her girlfriend that same question after knowing that her man has been calling another woman for a while .... which means that, because of women, a hell of a lot of men are getting away with havin’ “bootay” on the side.
Your statement: I look on the phone bill, which he knows I have access to, and all I see are calls to another woman; calls that are made when I am upstairs in another room.
Uh ... ok ... so you do know that he has been calling “bootay” for a while, 'cause it appears as if you’ve been looking at the phone bills for quite some time. He is a sneaky one girlfriend, makin’ those calls while you’re in another room. It appears to me that he is just too bold and doesn’t give a damn. Sistagirl, love "talk" is cheap. Actions are the only love words you need to hear.
Your statement: So, my question is: Do I bother confronting him about it and ask him why he says such wonderful things to me, while constantly calling another woman or do I just stay silent and tell him that I no longer want the relationship and pretty much drop him w/out reason?
Well, being that you have not confronted him by now and cussed him to no end when you saw the first phone bill, we know that you can’t be a “real” sista and we also know that you can’t be down with "da girlz in da hood" if you even thinkin’ about ending the relationship without cussin’ his azz out.
Your statement: If I confront him he may (1) deny it or (2) come up with some lie and (3) he would also know that I was "snooping.”
Yes, Yes and Yes … all three are true, but, who cares? He surely doesn’t. His azz talkin’ on the phone to the “bootay” while you're in the other room changin’ Jr’s diaper.
Your statement: Rachel, one more thing, I don't know why I am asking all of these questions, when I for one am not married to him.
And sorry to say chick … neither myself or my friends at the psychic network foresee this relationship headin’ to the alter. I wasn’t so sure about the “alter” thang, so I called Dionne Warwick’s “new” psychic hotline to assist me with this particular matter.
Your statement: Is there something wrong with me or what?
Yes there is.
Your statement: Not sure why I am wasting my time.
Me either.
Your statement: Perhaps, I just need to drop him...ugggh!
Well, I guess you really didn’t need my “keep it real, tell it like it is advice" after all. I am a little pissed that you made me waste my money calling the psychic network, but, all is well, because you, my friend, managed to solve your own dang problem.
Kudos to you!
Old African proverb: She who knows that her man ain’t worth shiznit knows that her man ain’t worth shiznit.
Friday, May 22, 2009
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Rachel, how funny is that. I am luvin your straight forward way of talking to women.
ReplyDeleteWomen definitely let men get away with too much. If we don't end relationships that are bad, we just keep perpetuating their behavior. Yes, the young lady did answer her own question. like DC said, keep telling it like it. Like DC said, keep telling it like it is
ReplyDeleteHow funny. I can't beleve the behavior of women these days. What will the future hold for us when they disrespect us so much that they talk on the phone to their women when we are in another room. I am a real sista and if I ever found out my man was doing this, as you said, I would curse him out and them drop kick him!
ReplyDeleteRachel,
ReplyDeleteMost guys cheat. She must first ask herself what else he is offering. If the good outweighs the bad, she might want to hang out with him until she finds someone else. But she needs to find someone else
Too funny Rachel. If he as the nerve to make calls while she is in the house, he does not respect her at all. She neds to move on.
ReplyDeletelol!
ReplyDeleteAs women, we have got to command much better. As RAchel said, we are the ones that are allowing the men to be dogs. We need to drop them like it is hot when they completely disrespect us. Keep tellin it like it is Rachel!
ReplyDeleteI am at a lost as to why women are so gullible. If a man is sneaky, he is just sneaky. He will be sneaky during the marriage too.
ReplyDeleteWhy Bother, is he at least good in bed? lol
ReplyDeleteROFL rachel, keep it comin.
ReplyDelete(sigh) okay breathe in and out slowly... Have you ever been to the food court at the mall? You see all of these fast food places and restaurants all lined up selling every verity of food that most people would like. When you look closer there are always these people in uniform standing holding a little piece of chicken on a stick for you to sample. Have you ever watched men in this scenario? Men will eat the chicken on a stick, leave, and still go over to Burger King and buy a whole combo super size it and the whole nine.
ReplyDeleteThat is what men do with women too. They will sample your goods, and still keep it moving down to the next woman. Now your probably thinking at the mall everyone has chicken on a stick, how can I complete with all of that? "Free samples" leads to the insecurity that your feeling right now. The right man will see what you have to offer, hear about your good name from other people, and just want to have you. He will want this even while standing in the middle of the food court full of people offering chicken on a stick standing all around him. He will see you as bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh and choose you over everyone else. Free samples can't offer you that. Only God's way can.
Yes! Yes! Yes! Keem em comin....
ReplyDeleteLOL. I second that. But FM She can't sit around too long waiting. God helps those who help themselves
ReplyDeleteLOL! Rachel, thank you for straightening her out, since it seems someone needs to. Poor thing, has no clue.
ReplyDeleteAnd B23, just accepting that all men cheat, and believing we always need to have a man/someone (anyone) are a few of the reasons women find themselves in these situations. A healthy dose of self esteem might be a good start....
Hey Rachel! LMAO! Now you know that this "chicka" is getting her diva card revoked! R-E-S-P-E-C-T. My 1 cent (ain't worth 2 cents) this "chicka" wants to continue the relationship and will. Cursing him out, for what?
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