Hey Rachel!I prefer to have sex in the dark! I’m in decent shape, so I don’t know exactly why, but I do. My boyfriend doesn’t care if we make love in full light or if it is pitch black. As a matter of fact, I think he prefers sex in full light. Rachel, why do you think most women are more comfortable with having sex in the dark and how can I come into the light?
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Sista. Two words. BODY IMAGE. As women, whether fat or skinny, many of us have had issues with our bodies since we lost our virginity. Blame it on TV, magazines, and those raunchy porn videos. As we aged, we realized that good lighting, airbrushing, anorexia, drugs, etc. created most of those “fake” images we saw, but by then, it was too late to turn on the lights.
Really now, have you ever undressed in front of a man who decided not to have sex with you because you were out of shape? I’m sure that hasn’t happened. Why? Because most men, who are in the process of getting laid, won’t give a DANG about your ripples, dimples, and stretch marks. No way! Not in the heat of the moment!
When he first met you, he knew you didn’t have a body like Rihanna or Janet (the slimmer version), but he still chose to be with you. Some men may even comment on your weight gain, but still won’t turn down a sexual encounter.
Women, we need to "COME INTO THE LIGHT.” No matter what our body type, we must relish in the “realness” of our individual beauty.
So, the next time you undress, let him bask in your natural imperfections.
Roll up the shades.
Turn on the lights.
Heck, pull out the spotlight.
Once you stop focusing on your perceived problem areas, you’ll have more time to focus on why it is that you ain’t NEVA EVA had a REAL freakin’ orgasm anyway.
Check out this Q&A and more in the latest edition of KRAZE magazine Krazemag at a local newsstand near you!
Oh Rachel. You are so right. I used to be overweight and now im in shape and i still will only have sex in the dark. I keep syaing it is for romance, but it is probably due to my past weight issues. I am going to turn on the light the next time
ReplyDeleteIt is romance for me. I have never been heavy. Sex not in the dark is not romantic and besides, the men I have been sleeping with lately leave a lot to be desired
ReplyDeleteHey Rachel as women we need to cherish our bodies no matter what size we are. My husband wants to have sex anywhere but I always take it to the bedroom and turn off the lights. Maybe i need to try something different and do it whereever he wants to. Great article.
ReplyDeleteI am not sure if I want to show off all that I have to offer until I lose a little weight. It will be my goal to turn on the lights when I lose a few pounds :)
ReplyDeleteTo the anonymous person who says they have weight to lose. Don't worry about it and try it. You will see that your man will not mind just like Rachel said. Men just want sex
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ReplyDeleteI never thought about my need to turn of the lights. I been doing it for so long. I will surely try it the next time i am lucky enough to get laid :<)
Rhianna's song kept dancing in my head while i was reading this. "Turn on the lights" We need to experiment and turn on the lights and have sex in avariety of places. We worry too much about our bodies
ReplyDeleteGuys I am in great shape. I turn off the lights to add romance. Many women may be ashamed of their bods, but I think most think its sexy.
ReplyDeleteGeesh. I'm fat and love it. No shame here
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